Domestic violence hits close to home

We were just back from our honeymoon when my new husband didn't like something I said, and he backhanded me across the face.  It was the first time he ever hit me. I sat, stunned, my teeth ringing, as his wedding band, the symbol of forever love, smashed into my mouth. I tasted blood. My … Continue reading Domestic violence hits close to home

How the hell do I forgive someone who abused me as a child?!

 This is an excellent question, but the answer may not be what you think. We’ve been told that forgiveness is giving up the right to revenge; that it’s the right thing to do, and if we don’t forgive, that we won’t be forgiven. Visions of hell taunt us if we fail to forgive our abusers … Continue reading How the hell do I forgive someone who abused me as a child?!

How To Properly Apologize

  I thought today would be a perfect day to write a piece about apologies and how to give one appropriately. Since we're smack dab in the holiday season and most of us are spending more than enough time with our families, I consulted with my sister on this article and together, we have over … Continue reading How To Properly Apologize

JOY – Just One You

  I've figured out a way to have joy in my life and I think this is how you can have it too.  I used to look out the window of my beige apartment, down to the parking lot below and think my life would always be a dark, scary, unhappy place. I thought all my … Continue reading JOY – Just One You

What Not to Say

My article today was inspired by Elizabeth Mosley-Banks's article "10 'Harmless' Things You Say that Hurt Me" (Elizabeth Mosley-Banks).  She lives with bipolar disorder and obsessive compulsive disorder and writes to increase kindness by educating others and letting those who have BPD and OCD know that they are not alone. After reading her article about … Continue reading What Not to Say

Pictured Rocks and A Lot of Good Men

My husband and I celebrated our 17th wedding anniversary this weekend and stayed on Mackinaw Island and then took a boat tour of the magnificent Pictured Rocks in Munising Michigan. On the Island, everyone has the most stunning gardens. The flowers are bigger and more colorful than I've ever seen; like you see in Mexico … Continue reading Pictured Rocks and A Lot of Good Men

The purpose of running

Well meaning people say "Stop running from your problems!" And they are right. We need to face our problems. So why don't we take their advice and stop running? It sounds so easy, "stop", like playing the game Red Light, Green Light. But we don't stop, we continue on. We run because it's all we … Continue reading The purpose of running