Hate has become a swear word for younger children. I know because I used the word once in front of my granddaughter, I think in reference to bananas. She was five at the time and she said, “Oh, grandmama, that’s a bad word. We’re not allowed to say that word.” I’ve tried not to use … Continue reading There I Go Again
One of my favorite lines from the movie Elf is when Buddy says “I just like to smile. Smiling is my favorite.” I like to smile, too, and these days, it’s truly coming from an authentic place. But when I was younger, it was sometimes to hide pain that was too shameful to talk about. This … Continue reading The Smile in front of the Pain
You'll never find joy if you stay with your abuser. Why? I'll give you my top three reasons. There are so many, but I'll stick with three for now. An abusive spouse/boyfriend becomes your prison guard...from which to escape. He controls you. The way he treats you, which is a systematic plan of dominating you, … Continue reading You must leave your abuser to find Joy
We can learn so much from our littles can’t we? That we’re deeply loved super heroes? I know this little guy feels that way. I don’t know about you but I don’t wake up feeling like a loved super hero every day. It doesn’t change the way God sees me though. God loves us unconditionally. … Continue reading See Yourself Through God’s Eyes
Ours is a magical love affair You bring me gifts, shimmering shells of gold and green. You whisper sweet calm to me all through the day Misty memories of a happy childhood dream But yesterday you were angry, and into the night. I woke to your roar waves still crashing Churning up sand, not … Continue reading The Ocean
This is an excellent question, but the answer may not be what you think. We’ve been told that forgiveness is giving up the right to revenge; that it’s the right thing to do, and if we don’t forgive, that we won’t be forgiven. Visions of hell taunt us if we fail to forgive our abusers … Continue reading How the hell do I forgive someone who abused me as a child?!
Today we had to say goodbye to our sweet dog Lely. She would have been 18 in April. In her honor I give you the Five Reasons You Should Have a Dog 1. They provide excellent excuses. Lely gave us a reason to leave a party early. For my introverted friends, this is an excellent … Continue reading Five Reasons You Need a Dog
I battle with writing about topics like domestic violence, rape, sexism, abortion, or racism. Not because I’m afraid of what people will think or say (yes, I am), but mostly because I believe that we create our reality with thoughts and emotion. I don’t want to increase negative vibes by talking too much about a … Continue reading Stream of Conscience
I stared at the page on my computer screen, unable to write a word. Self-doubt paralyzed me as I attempted to fill out an application for a job a friend told me about. She said I'd be perfect for the position and could fit easily into the work culture at this company. I was thrilled … Continue reading Am I enough?
When I was younger, more often than not, I would sit in discomfort or pain rather than risk hurting someone's feelings. I was terrified of telling a friend or especially my spouse the truth of a matter because it might "hurt their feelings" or make them uncomfortable or worse, angry with me; meanwhile, my migraine … Continue reading Feel free to hurt someone’s feelings