There I Go Again

Hate has become a swear word for younger children. I know because I used the word once in front of my granddaughter, I think in reference to bananas. She was five at the time and she said, “Oh, grandmama, that’s a bad word. We’re not allowed to say that word.” I’ve tried not to use … Continue reading There I Go Again

The Smile in front of the Pain

One of my favorite lines from the movie Elf is when Buddy says “I just like to smile. Smiling is my favorite.” I like to smile, too, and these days, it’s truly coming from an authentic place. But when I was younger, it was sometimes to hide pain that was too shameful to talk about. This … Continue reading The Smile in front of the Pain

You must leave your abuser to find Joy

You'll never find joy if you stay with your abuser. Why?  I'll give you my top three reasons. There are so many, but I'll stick with three for now.  An abusive spouse/boyfriend becomes your prison guard...from which to escape. He controls you. The way he treats you, which is a systematic plan of dominating you, … Continue reading You must leave your abuser to find Joy

See Yourself Through God’s Eyes

We can learn so much from our littles can’t we? That we’re deeply loved super heroes? I know this little guy feels that way. I don’t know about you but I don’t wake up feeling like a loved super hero every day. It doesn’t change the way God sees me though. God loves us unconditionally. … Continue reading See Yourself Through God’s Eyes

The Ocean

Ours is a magical love affair You bring me gifts, shimmering shells of gold and green. You whisper sweet calm to me all through the day Misty memories of a happy childhood dream   But yesterday you were angry, and into the night. I woke to your roar waves still crashing Churning up sand, not … Continue reading The Ocean

How the hell do I forgive someone who abused me as a child?!

 This is an excellent question, but the answer may not be what you think. We’ve been told that forgiveness is giving up the right to revenge; that it’s the right thing to do, and if we don’t forgive, that we won’t be forgiven. Visions of hell taunt us if we fail to forgive our abusers … Continue reading How the hell do I forgive someone who abused me as a child?!

Five Reasons You Need a Dog

Today we had to say goodbye to our sweet dog Lely.  She would have been 18 in April.  In her honor I give you the Five Reasons You Should Have a Dog 1.  They provide excellent excuses.  Lely gave us a reason to leave a party early.  For my introverted friends, this is an excellent … Continue reading Five Reasons You Need a Dog