A friend of mine told me about a church she knows of that is exacting discipline on a woman because she filed for divorce from her husband. She claims he emotionally abused her. The elders, all male, in the church say that she has no “biblical basis” for divorce. Therefore, they are “disciplining” her. I’ll make … Continue reading Run Free, Woman!
It’s extremely upsetting to learn that someone you love so much is in a relationship with a controlling and cruel person. Your first inclination might be to do something heroic, like confront the abuser and give him an ultimatum that if he lays a hand on her, he’ll have YOU to answer to. Trust me, … Continue reading My daughter is in an abusive marriage, what do I do?
Remember back in 2014 when Ray Rice, ex- NFL player, hit his then fiancé, Janay Palmer, in an Atlantic City hotel so hard it knocked her out cold? That video is hard to watch as he drags her unconscious body out of the elevator. I remember everyone kept asking Janay, "how can you stay with … Continue reading The right question
My article today was inspired by Elizabeth Mosley-Banks's article "10 'Harmless' Things You Say that Hurt Me" (Elizabeth Mosley-Banks). She lives with bipolar disorder and obsessive compulsive disorder and writes to increase kindness by educating others and letting those who have BPD and OCD know that they are not alone. After reading her article about … Continue reading What Not to Say
Twenty plus years later, I still remember the shame I felt after it happened. My parents had moved back to Atlanta to run their business, and my then-husband and I decided to visit them. I grew up in Atlanta so it was "my" town and I was excited to show him the city where I … Continue reading The hair barrette
Dear Pastor, I’m scared to go home today. My husband is ramped up, I can see it in his eyes. He gave me a dirty look when I dropped the kids off at Sunday school. I think it was because my son was crying and didn’t want me to leave and I was consoling him. … Continue reading I’m scared to go home today
I've believed lies before. I think most of us have, if we're honest. Some lies cause less damage than others, like the commercial that said a certain carpet cleaner would make pet stains disappear. I believed their claims, yet no matter how many times I used that cleaner the stain returned after a few hours. … Continue reading The lies we believe
It's been 20 years since I left my abuser. I have two children from that marriage, a son and a daughter, and I'm in awe at how they've risen above the dark and difficult road they've had to walk. I couldn't be prouder of them. I used to feel tremendous guilt and shame for not … Continue reading One decision can change the world