Who was Venus Stewart?

Photos of Venus Stewart show a beautiful young woman with gorgeous brown eyes and a sweet smile. She was the mother of two little girls and she loved them with all of her heart. She did everything she could to protect them. Eight years ago she was divorcing her husband.  She and her daughters moved … Continue reading Who was Venus Stewart?

My daughter is in an abusive marriage, what do I do?

It’s extremely upsetting to learn that someone you love so much is in a relationship with a controlling and cruel person. Your first inclination might be to do something heroic, like confront the abuser and give him an ultimatum that if he lays a hand on her, he’ll have YOU to answer to. Trust me, … Continue reading My daughter is in an abusive marriage, what do I do?

The right question

Remember back in 2014 when Ray Rice, ex- NFL player, hit his then fiancé, Janay Palmer, in an Atlantic City hotel so hard it knocked her out cold? That video is hard to watch as he drags her unconscious body out of the elevator. I remember everyone kept asking Janay, "how can you stay with … Continue reading The right question

What Not to Say

My article today was inspired by Elizabeth Mosley-Banks's article "10 'Harmless' Things You Say that Hurt Me" (Elizabeth Mosley-Banks).  She lives with bipolar disorder and obsessive compulsive disorder and writes to increase kindness by educating others and letting those who have BPD and OCD know that they are not alone. After reading her article about … Continue reading What Not to Say

You’re worth at least half

What we believe about ourselves is exposed during a divorce. And for a woman divorcing an abusive man, her self-esteem is pretty much shot to hell. You can tell by what she's willing to give up. I've seen women give up houses, cars, investment accounts, alimony, (thankfully by law they can't refuse child support!) because … Continue reading You’re worth at least half

The problem with me and my abusive marriage

Marriage is a long-term commitment and a life time of promise and hope of being together.  The contract and the commitment anchor us to get through the storms of life. In a healthy marriage, that's a beautiful and good thing as it shores us up and provides stability and cohesion for generations. But in an … Continue reading The problem with me and my abusive marriage

The hair barrette

Twenty plus years later, I still remember the shame I felt after it happened. My parents had moved back to Atlanta to run their business, and my then-husband and I decided to visit them.  I grew up in Atlanta so it was "my" town and I was excited to show him the city where I … Continue reading The hair barrette

Those Parkland Kids

Eighteen days ago, another fatal school shooting. It’s sickening to think of those children running for their lives, hiding behind desks and doors, praying the rapid-fire shots don’t find their classroom, crying, texting parents and siblings, telling them maybe for the last time how much they love them. How are these young students to continue … Continue reading Those Parkland Kids

I’m scared to go home today

Dear Pastor, I’m scared to go home today. My husband is ramped up, I can see it in his eyes. He gave me a dirty look when I dropped the kids off at Sunday school. I think it was because my son was crying and didn’t want me to leave and I was consoling him.  … Continue reading I’m scared to go home today