My daughter is in an abusive marriage, what do I do?

It’s extremely upsetting to learn that someone you love so much is in a relationship with a controlling and cruel person. Your first inclination might be to do something heroic, like confront the abuser and give him an ultimatum that if he lays a hand on her, he’ll have YOU to answer to. Trust me, … Continue reading My daughter is in an abusive marriage, what do I do?

The right question

Remember back in 2014 when Ray Rice, ex- NFL player, hit his then fiancé, Janay Palmer, in an Atlantic City hotel so hard it knocked her out cold? That video is hard to watch as he drags her unconscious body out of the elevator. I remember everyone kept asking Janay, "how can you stay with … Continue reading The right question

What Not to Say

My article today was inspired by Elizabeth Mosley-Banks's article "10 'Harmless' Things You Say that Hurt Me" (Elizabeth Mosley-Banks).  She lives with bipolar disorder and obsessive compulsive disorder and writes to increase kindness by educating others and letting those who have BPD and OCD know that they are not alone. After reading her article about … Continue reading What Not to Say

My husband tells me he won’t hit me again, but how can I know for sure?

There are no guarantees he won’t abuse you again, and unfortunately, the chances are high that he will abuse you again if he's not addressing his problems in an accountability group and therapy. If your husband has physically or sexually harmed you, or if there is a pattern of verbal, emotional, or mental abuse, there … Continue reading My husband tells me he won’t hit me again, but how can I know for sure?

The problem with me and my abusive marriage

Marriage is a long-term commitment and a life time of promise and hope of being together.  The contract and the commitment anchor us to get through the storms of life. In a healthy marriage, that's a beautiful and good thing as it shores us up and provides stability and cohesion for generations. But in an … Continue reading The problem with me and my abusive marriage

The hair barrette

Twenty plus years later, I still remember the shame I felt after it happened. My parents had moved back to Atlanta to run their business, and my then-husband and I decided to visit them.  I grew up in Atlanta so it was "my" town and I was excited to show him the city where I … Continue reading The hair barrette

Miss Davis Eyes

During the very tumultuous pre-teen years of a young girls’ life, I attended a conservative Christian school in the deep South. I use the term “Christian” generously like I do when I butter my bread, but I can assure you that my experience in this school was not as smooth or sweet. My first bitter … Continue reading Miss Davis Eyes