Years ago, after selling our home and waiting for the new home to be built, we rented a house that used to be an old barn. In renovating, the owners preserved the charm of the barn on the outside as well as the inside of the house. They kept the old wooden rafters, wood floors, and … Continue reading Trick or treat
I had to google the words on this beautiful stone (first picture) (a lovely gift from my friends and coworkers when I retired) and found out it is a line in the song Oceans by Hillsong: Spirit, lead me where my trust is without borders. My thought was, I don't have a place where my … Continue reading Trust Without Borders
I was raised in a time when it was drilled into the minds of testosterone filled young men that their virginity was the greatest asset they had to offer an intimate relationship. They were taught to protect their virginity like a precious pearl. This pearl was to be saved for one woman, not passed around, … Continue reading Boys, protect your virginity!
It’s extremely upsetting to learn that someone you love so much is in a relationship with a controlling and cruel person. Your first inclination might be to do something heroic, like confront the abuser and give him an ultimatum that if he lays a hand on her, he’ll have YOU to answer to. Trust me, … Continue reading My daughter is in an abusive marriage, what do I do?
It was a Saturday morning, and I had gotten there early to beat the crowd, hopefully not running into anyone I knew. Sometimes I like to keep to myself when I do my shopping because I’ve worn my worst pair of jeans, I have minimal make-up on that was put on in the dark, and … Continue reading Do you believe in Angels?
My granddaughter LOVES fairies! Well, up until about a few weeks ago she did. I can see the mystique waning a little bit, as she just turned 8 years old, and that just breaks my heart a little, but I understand and I of course have been through this with my children as they left … Continue reading Lillian and her fairies
Remember back in 2014 when Ray Rice, ex- NFL player, hit his then fiancé, Janay Palmer, in an Atlantic City hotel so hard it knocked her out cold? That video is hard to watch as he drags her unconscious body out of the elevator. I remember everyone kept asking Janay, "how can you stay with … Continue reading The right question
My article today was inspired by Elizabeth Mosley-Banks's article "10 'Harmless' Things You Say that Hurt Me" (Elizabeth Mosley-Banks). She lives with bipolar disorder and obsessive compulsive disorder and writes to increase kindness by educating others and letting those who have BPD and OCD know that they are not alone. After reading her article about … Continue reading What Not to Say
There are no guarantees he won’t abuse you again, and unfortunately, the chances are high that he will abuse you again if he's not addressing his problems in an accountability group and therapy. If your husband has physically or sexually harmed you, or if there is a pattern of verbal, emotional, or mental abuse, there … Continue reading My husband tells me he won’t hit me again, but how can I know for sure?
What we believe about ourselves is exposed during a divorce. And for a woman divorcing an abusive man, her self-esteem is pretty much shot to hell. You can tell by what she's willing to give up. I've seen women give up houses, cars, investment accounts, alimony, (thankfully by law they can't refuse child support!) because … Continue reading You’re worth at least half