I’ve believed lies before. I think most of us have, if we’re honest.
Some lies cause less damage than others, like the commercial that said a certain carpet cleaner would make pet stains disappear. I believed their claims, yet no matter how many times I used that cleaner the stain returned after a few hours. The only harm done was that I lost about $5.47 in the deal.
A more harmful lie to believe is when an abuser tells you he will change.
His claims simply aren’t true. How many times have you heard, “I’m sorry, it won’t happen again”? How many times are you going to believe it? If it was true like he says it is, his abusive attitudes and behaviors would have stopped by now. He would not have hit you, called you that ugly name, shamed you in front of your friends, hidden money from you, pushed you, etc., a 2nd, 3rd, or 4th time.
When that stain keeps reappearing, or the abuse keeps happening, that’s a sure sign that you might be believing a lie. If you are, the cost to you is being trapped in a dangerous cycle of abuse, and that my sweet friend is too high a price to pay.
If you need help, please don’t hesitate to call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. Trained advocates are available to talk with you 24 hours a day and will keep your conversation confidential.