This is an excellent question, but the answer may not be what you think. We’ve been told that forgiveness is giving up the right to revenge; that it’s the right thing to do, and if we don’t forgive, that we won’t be forgiven. Visions of hell taunt us if we fail to forgive our abusers … Continue reading How the hell do I forgive someone who abused me as a child?!
This is not a literal hole. I would characterize it as a hole of despair. And I'm not sure I climbed out as much as I was pulled out. It was definitely a combination of me climbing and three or four people pulling. About six days ago, I was swept off my feet by a … Continue reading How to climb out of a hole
I’m not talking about when you’re driving in 5:00 traffic and the universe has it out for you because each time you change lanes, the lane you ease into slows down to a crawl. Or when you’ve put all your weeks’ worth of groceries on the belt, there are two people behind you, and the … Continue reading Do You Feel Trapped?
Today we had to say goodbye to our sweet dog Lely. She would have been 18 in April. In her honor I give you the Five Reasons You Should Have a Dog 1. They provide excellent excuses. Lely gave us a reason to leave a party early. For my introverted friends, this is an excellent … Continue reading Five Reasons You Need a Dog
I battle with writing about topics like domestic violence, rape, sexism, abortion, or racism. Not because I’m afraid of what people will think or say (yes, I am), but mostly because I believe that we create our reality with thoughts and emotion. I don’t want to increase negative vibes by talking too much about a … Continue reading Stream of Conscience
If I told you not to think about something, it could be anything, that's exactly what you'd think about. A hammer, a car, the universe, pink elephants. We can't help it, that's how our brains work. I remember growing up in Georgia and attending an overly strict "Christian" school, they told us "don't think about … Continue reading What Not To Think About
Don't go Please don't leave again Every time if feels like my heart will bleed to death Or I will cease to be It's not the same It's not the same without you here Birds don't sing Music don't play And I can't breathe Until you come home. As I sat on our bed watching … Continue reading Poetry and freedom
I love the new Gillette commercial, the one calling men to hold each other accountable, because in less than two minutes it addresses bullying, sexual harassment, accountability, and healthy role models. It states "We believe in the best of men" and ends with a father walking with his son and the dad breaks up a … Continue reading That damn Gillette commercial
Our friends just brought home a darling little girl they adopted from Colombia. I saw the photos from the celebratory homecoming at the airport with their family and closest friends and I was moved by what I saw. Almost three weeks away from home, just shy of a month separated from their older children, and … Continue reading Adoption
A couple of weeks ago when we were up to our calves in gifts and all sorts of Christmas baubles, I had a thought: I have too much crap and I need to get rid of it. Not very holiday-spirited, but I was feeling a bit closed in. The stuffed snowmen on my mantel stared … Continue reading Letting go